As You Like It

Take it as you like it.

As long as you’re generally competent, making a small, occasional mistake makes people think you’re more competent. Flaws call out the good stuff all the more.

—Christian Rudder - ‘The pratfall effect

This matters because our evolved sexuality is in direct conflict with any aspects of the modern world. Contradictions between what we should feel and what we actually do feel generates a huge amount of unncessary suffering. My hope is that a more accurate, updated understanding of human sexuality will lead us to have greater tolerance; for ourselves, for each other, greater respect for unconvential relationship conventions.. and that we will finally put to rest that men have some innate, instinctive to monitor and control women’s sexual behaviour.

And we will see that it’s not just gay people that have to come out of the closet, we all have closets we have to come out of. And when we do come out of those closets, we will recognise that our fight is not with each other, our fight is with an outdated Victorian sense of human sexuality that conflates desire with property rights, generates shame and confusion, instead of understanding and empathy.

—Christopher Ryan: Are we designed to be sexual omnivores? (TED talk)

All that we can surmise of humankind’s genetic history argues for a more liberal sexual morality, in which sexual practices are to regarded first as bonding devices and only second as a means of procreation.

E.O. Wilson (quoted in this TED talk)

When you look closely at anything familiar, it transmogrifies into something unfamiliar.

—Alexandra Horowitz (cognitive scientist)

You get fifteen democrats in a room, and you get twenty opinions.

—Senator Patrick Leahy, May 1990

A banker is a fellow who lends you his umbrella when the sun is shining, but wants it back the minute it begins to rain.

—Mark Twain

Men have always detested women’s gossip because they suspect the truth: their measurements are being taken and compared.

—Erica Jong